This is a very major issue in my life. Uncle Bruce, I understand your mothers feelings in this matter and yes, I also remember that carrot that they threw out years ago stating that if you wanted your baby/ies to have a chance at the resurrection then you had better walk the straight and narrow and be completely obedient.
This winter it this topic that was the final disagreement sending me running away from the organization. Even when I used the scripture that spoke of Jah knowing us in our embryonic state I was met with ... but the "society" now states that unbreathing babies do not get resurrected based on a principle. They wanted to explain that principle and I refused to let them. Hogwash!
I little while ago I read a most interesting post and I think it might have been on JWD stating the belief of dieing completely and then returning to a different body is actually part and parcel of the recincarnation. When I read this I knew that was it! I think that they are including the reincarnation belief to a degree in their fairy tale.
I hope that this makes sense I have not even sipped my morning coffee yet.
Cab